Sex Therapy, Couples & Individual Coaching,
Relationship Intensives
with Johanina Wikoff, PhD and Andy Milberg
in Petaluma and San Francisco California, by phone or Skype


Dare To Love …Again
Mature Love, Sex
& Emotionally Fulfilling Intimacy

Have you lost that loving feeling?  Is your relationship bogged down with unresolved issues? Are you at a crossroad and wondering whether to go or stay?  Do you avoid intimacy and/or sex?  Are you tired of money being an issue? Are you single and tired of relationships that leave you feeling discouraged or disappointed? Are you successful in your professional life but unfulfilled when it comes to love?

We have good news for you. We help people with busy and demanding lives repair their love lives, even when they are on the brink of giving up.

Relationships thrive with the right kind of attention.  Great relationships are like well tended gardens. When they are given the right nutrients, they nourish your body and soul.

Unfortunately, few of us were taught the skills for growing and sustaining a healthy passionate relationship.  Combine a lack of know how with unresolved issues, and being intimate can feel too hard and become something you avoid.

Not surprisingly, we hear two entirely different stories from women and men about why they avoid intimacy.

Women tell us that the demands of work, the busyness of family life, and a lack of intimate connection with their partner dampens their desire for intimacy. What helps them to reconnect is their partner’s attention and emotional presence. Men tell us they want to feel needed and desired, and that they avoid intimacy when they feel criticized and unappreciated.

Our Relationship Intensives and Coaching Programs are designed to guide you through the steps to repairing the issues and obstacles that come between you and having the relationship you want.

You’ll learn to:

  • Identify and repair negative behaviors
  • Stop blaming, criticizing, and shutting each other out
  • Be more playful and grateful
  • Re-romance your relationship
  • Deepen intimacy
  • Create a secure and emotionally fulfilling relationship
  • Rediscover desire
  • Reinvent your sexual connection
  • Create ease as you go through life transitions:  work, sex, money, children, health and aging
  • And if you are single and want to be in the best relationship of your life, we will guide you in the steps you need to take to have great and lasting love

Who We Are:

We are Johanina Wikoff and Andy Milberg, and during the past 35 years we’ve worked with over 7000 people at all stages of coupling. One of the things we’ve discovered is that even when you are feeling hurt, frustrated, or at the brink of divorce, you can repair and rebuild your intimate relationship.

These three principles for lasting transformation are built into all of our programs:

1. Understanding
Deep and lasting change is built on a foundation of understanding your own and your partner’s emotional patterns and the differences that divide you as well as the issues and conflicts you face.

2.  Action
Change requires action. We equip you with the skills and tools to quickly identify and repair negative relationship patterns and behaviors.  Then we show you how to maintain a secure bond and a vibrant intimate connection.

3. Guidance and Support
A trusted guide who knows the terrain is invaluable when you are healing and transforming your relationship.
As your coaches and mentors we are committed to supporting you through the steps to achieving the relationship you want.

Our story:

We were friends for 20 years before we became a couple. And we were each in our own way seeking a great love, a soul mate. Each of us had successful careers counseling and coaching people to heal and transform their relationships and their sexuality.

In spite of being successful at helping others, we had some baggage of our own. Three years into our relationship we considered separating. We had some unconscious patterns undermining the secure bond we wanted.  Instead of separating, we practiced what we teach and made repairing our relationship a priority.  Today, we are happily married and excited to be sharing our passion for creating great relationships with you.

Johanina is an innovative sex therapist and relationship coach.  She is the author of a best selling guide to the Kama Sutra, and a Tantra yogini who has practiced classical and modern Tantra Yoga since the 1970s.  Andy is a senior teacher of the Hoffman Process, an intensive program for personal transformation.  He has worked in the field of transformative education since the 1970’s. Andy specializes in sex and money related coaching.  He has studied and taught Tantra Yoga since 1990.

Johanina and Andy are dedicated to lasting passionate and conscious relating. Their work integrates the most current scientific research in couples counseling, sex therapy, bonding and attachment psychology, and neuroscience as well as the ancient teachings of the Tantric arts.

Why people choose to work with us:

We are mature therapists and coaches with decades of experience helping people transform their lives and relationships.

We champion the sexual health and emotional intimacy of relationships, and feel strongly that pleasure and sexual fulfillment is an important healing and bonding force.

Tantra and the Kama Sutra: Our work is grounded in psychotherapeutic knowledge, and we recognize the importance of the Sacred in relationship. Many of our clients choose to work with us for our experience with the 64 sacred spiritual arts that are woven through Tantra and the Kama Sutra

We recognize Mature Sex as a new frontier.

If you are married or in a long term relationship you know that lust doesn’t last and desire isn’t a constant. Many people today are entering into maturity with sexual expectations that are obsolete. Sex in maturity is a whole new frontier.  We aren’t just dealing with the lapses in desire that come with living together in close proximity.  As we age we are less hormonally driven to want sex.  Desire has to come from wanting to be physically close and emotionally connected. Rediscovering your own sexuality and an intimate sexual and emotional connection in maturity is one of life’s greatest riches. Having experienced this ourselves, we know the terrain and will guide you in your journey.


Our new programs:

  • The Relationship Makeover Intensive
  • Rediscovering Desire Intensive
  • Money and Your Relationship
  • Six, Nine & Twelve Month Sustain Change Coaching programs 

Intrigued and want to learn more?  Or clearly ready to get started?

Let’s talk. We’ll have a 30 minute complimentary call to find out if our work is the right fit for you. It’s the first step. If at the end of the call you want to take the next step, we will talk about how we can create a program for you.

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Johanina Wikoff, PhD and Andy Milberg
Dare To Love Again

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