Rediscovering desire

Published in Alternative Medicine magazine ©Johanina Wikoff. All rights reserved. Rose is on the red-eye flight back home to San Francisco after making love with her new boyfriend Charlie for the first time. She is thinking about him, still feeling delicious sensations that charge her body with tingling aliveness. Looking out the jet’s window at the Rocky...
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Tantric sex: an erotic meditation

Published in Alternative Medicine magazine, January 2002 ©Johanina Wikoff. All rights reserved. According to Hindu mythology, the sexual and spiritual union of Shiva with Shakti gave birth to the universe. The god Shiva is seen as the embodiment of pure consciousness and his consort, the goddess Shakti, as the embodiment of pure energy. Together they represent human existence in an erotic...
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Just love, no agenda

Published in Alternative Medicine magazine, August 2002 ©Johanina Wikoff. All rights reserved. The best lovemaking happens when we have gone beyond giving and getting, thinking and striving; when we let go of technique and agendas and are present in the touch, taste, smells and sounds of lovemaking. Yet, for many people the experience of making love is colored by an...
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Asking for what you want

Published in Alternative Medicine magazine, August 2002 ©Johanina Wikoff. All rights reserved. Whether you have been taught not to ask for anything, or are afraid you might take the magic out of the moment, discovering the art of gently conversing in the bedroom can enhance your life. When it comes to pleasure, we all have some preferences that we wish our partners...
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The field of big love

Chapter in progress from the book “The Inner Game of Love” ©2006 Johanina Wikoff. All rights reserved. Our deepest longing is to be loved. Our deepest fear is that we are unlovable. This primal fear has its roots in our childhood when we are dependent on others for love. We look into our mother’s eyes and, if what we see reflected back is her pain and frustration, we...
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